Cougar skinning

Starting about 10 years ago I noticed a fair number of divorces (all initiated by the woman) in my general social/work network which ended with the now divorced woman dating or living with a much younger man. Just from casual curiosity I kinda kept track of these relationships and added a few over the years as well.

In total I kept watch on about 12 older female-younger male relationships. The newest one was added about 3 years ago and is counted twice as that was the second younger fling for that woman. Interrestingly enough none of these older woman have begun new relationships with younger men in the last 2 years period and most all of them are single now and hitting the bars regularly.

Now of course I have very limited information on most of these women as to casual sex and perhaps getting lucky from time to time. A few I know for a fact have picked up the stray young guy and brought them home but not a one is still with the younger man they started off with.

Also about half of them I have had no information on for 5 years or more as I stopped following up on them when their "fling" ended. I also don't have accurate information on the exact age differences in each case but what I do know is that out of 12 older woman to younger men relationships not a one of them worked out for longer than 5 years.

One in particular that I witnessed up close was a woman I work with who was dating a much much younger man. She was as near as I could figure in her lower 40's while the guy was at best 20. After about 2 years I witnessed the boy sending his cougar to get him drinks while he used every opportunity of his cougars absence to flirt heavily with a banquet server at a company party. Later that night he had disappeared and was last seen walking out a back door with said server. The cougar has been looking steadily worse since then and several co-workers have gossiped about how hard she is taking her new found singleness.

Another case which happened to be an Ex-girlfriend of mine, began with her marrying an 18 year old guy when she was 36 and ended with him finally pushing her into internet porn and finally making a few movies. You can see her in one of the "watching my mom go black" and "cougars in heat" movies if your interested. They finally split up last year (after 4 years of marriage) as she is facing 3 felony charges for theft.

My point is I cannot find any hard statistics on overall older women to younger men relationships. Several articles proclaim how these relationships are on the rise, and point out the Demi Moore to boytoy thing. Yet I cannot find any real studies into how long these relationships really work.

My experiences and observations show they don't work at all and I must admit a certain satisfaction in seeing the once mighty cougars skinned and just looking old, tired, and used up now.

For the young guys I can understand their interest, Hell cougar skinning isn't anything new I can assure you of that from my own experiences of 20 or more years ago. Also judging by what I see in the younger women now adays I can see the advantages: Use the older ones while they still look good and they are just happy your so much younger and wont bitch about money and success until the younger ones get some age themselves....then dump the old ones when they are old.

Oh well none of this really effects me anymore except the certain satisfaction I get to make the occasional dig at the used up old cougar from time to time.